In order to embody the beautiful life I now lead, I first had to learn how to shift the patterns and ways of being that were no longer serving me and transform them into what was aligned with a truer version of myself. This is my story.
As a deep thinker, seeker, and creative, I have been on a journey of self-discovery for as long as I can remember. Growing up in small-town Canada, I was a girl with big dreams, varied interests, and a hunger for opportunity and growth. Once I finished high school, I moved to Vancouver to attend University where my path of self-discovery deepened. At 21, I decided I was going to commit to a career as an actress and I began to study the craft of acting, along with human behavior, psychology, personal development, and spirituality. Around the same time I got engaged and then married, and while 7 months pregnant, moved to Los Angeles where I only knew one person other than my husband. It was a lonely time for me and a big adjustment but it led me to delve deeper into learning about myself. My growth continued as I worked as an actress, navigated the entertainment industry, separated and divorced when my son was just a toddler and created a co-parenting relationship with my ex-husband. After splitting with my husband, I got into an addictive on-and-off relationship for the next 7 plus years. After struggling financially for a few years I decided it was time for a change so I quit acting, began a career as a real estate agent, and started working for my boyfriend at the time’s real estate technology startup company.
These were extraordinarily trying times but ultimately, I was compelled to look even more deeply at myself, what I was creating in my life, and why. Throughout these times, I continually used the contrast of what I did not want to define what I did want. I was relentless in my seeking, learning how to change my story, and break patterns. I learned how to let go of resistance and connect with the energy of source in order to facilitate and integrate these changes. I started to become willing to see myself clearly and act into the version of myself that was true rather than the version I had been living based upon my wounds. I learned how to take concepts like self-forgiveness and letting go that I knew about intellectually and experience them viscerally. Once I was able to train my body to a new way of being, I was able to break the emotions and patterns that were running me and embody the change I wanted in my life.
Aside from my life experiences, perhaps the perfect storm for coaching, I have always been the person who would listen to, hold space for, and encourage others. I have an innate gift to see another’s potential and believe in that version of them until they are able to believe it themself and step into it. I have never bought into what we are constantly told is possible for us. I fervently believe that what is in one’s heart is their calling and that if it is in their heart it is entirely possible. While I was transitioning from acting to real estate, I was hired to be a dating coach. I knew at that time what was going to help my clients was much deeper than the superficial. Of course, we worked on the fun, logistical elements of dating, but we also worked on how they were seeing themselves and what shifts needed to happen to step into the version of themselves that was more aligned with their truth. In a very short period of time, I saw my clients transform and create long-term change in their life. From that time on, I knew I would continue to help people transform their lives. It took a few more years of building stability in my own life before I was ready to fully commit to a career as a coach, but once I was ready I didn’t look back.
“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years”. Not only have I found this statement made by Bill Gates to be true through personal experience but I have seen it in my long-term clients over and over. In fact, over the past six years, my life has dramatically changed in every area and continues to change for the better all the time. I can only imagine what the next four years will hold for me! This change all happened because of my decisions, commitments, and support. At the beginning of 2016, I was still emotionally attached to an ex I’d been in an off-and-on relationship for 7 plus years. A relationship that was never going to give me what I wanted. I had a 10-year-old son from my first marriage and knew for certain I wanted another child. I was doing work that was completely misaligned for me, working non-stop, and I was in tons of scarcity and struggle. I was sad, mad, heartbroken, disappointed, in tons of resistance, carrying guilt – you name it!! Since then, I met the man of my dreams who has and continues to blow my wildest imaginings of what is possible in a partnership. We are married and have a now 3-year-old daughter and a happily blended family. I changed careers to what I now do which fills me up in ways I only dreamed about before. I work about a third of what I used to and continue to dramatically increase my income every year. I have an incredible community of the most loving and supportive people, nurturing, joyful friendships, a fantastic relationship with my ex-husband, and children that are thriving. I now feel ease, fulfillment, joy, connection, love, inspiration, gratitude, and presence on a daily basis. That is just the tip of the iceberg but a small example of the possibility of inhabiting the life you dream of now!
I am grateful for all of the experiences I have had as they have helped me continue to make new discoveries about myself thus informing how I help others. They have been my training ground, have laid an incredibly strong foundation for me, pushed me, and allowed me to see and learn so much more than I otherwise might have. What I now know is that there is not one “right” path for anyone and no one’s path looks the same. Every interest I have had has been a calling. Every experience I have gone through and relationship I have engaged in has led me to where I now stand. As I continue to follow these callings and advance along my path, it continues to illuminate and unfold in ways that I never could have predicted!
